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SAY HELLO FIRST
by
BIANCA CUMMINGS
If making friends feels awkward, intimidating, or like something everyone else figured out but you, you’re not alone. And you’re not broken. You just haven’t been shown how.
From science to soul, introvert to extrovert—this guide meets you where you are and helps you build the life you want.
Say Hello First
A Therapist’s Guide to
Building Confidence and Finally Making Friends
In this powerful, research-backed guide, licensed therapist and social confidence expert Bianca Cummings gives you the tools to overcome loneliness, ease social anxiety, and start building genuine friendship.
Blending psychology, neuroscience, and real-life strategies, Say Hello First walks you through the internal shifts and external actions that make connection possible. Whether you're shy, socially anxious, starting over, or just craving deeper relationships, this book will help you feel more confident and connected, without changing who you are.
You’ll learn how to:
Use your internal energy to build trust and interpersonal synchrony
Discover how your brain is wired for connection
Learn the neuroscience of happiness and social bonding
Build internal confidence and break free from self-criticism
Recognize the social psychology blind spots that distort how you see yourself, like the liking gap, spotlight effect, and social comparison
Cultivate external confidence through body language and presence
Master the art of starting conversations
Find and connect with new friends
Plus: a lighthearted bonus chapter on why your dog might be your best ally in loneliness!
Whether you're a teen, adult, or therapist supporting others, Say Hello First will help you feel ready, open, and confident in your ability to connect.
Your next friendship starts with your next hello.
What Readers Are Saying
“A must-read for anyone who wants to belong. I would recommend this to my clients.”
— Amanda T., LPC
“Beautifully written, deeply relatable,
and full of useful tools I’ll carry with me.”
— Joyce C.
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About Bianca
Bianca Cummings is a licensed professional counselor and certified trauma therapist based in Connecticut. She helps teens and adults build confidence, emotional balance, and meaningful relationships.
Say Hello First is her debut book, combining clinical insight and real-life strategies to help readers overcome loneliness and create lasting friendships.
College Companion Guide
HOW TO MAKE FRIENDS IN COLLEGE
(Even When It Feels Hard)
College gets lonely fast, but connection is possible. This free guide gives you small, smart ways to make it easier.
Simple ways to start conversations
Relatable student scenarios that show what works
A printable worksheet to take your next brave step
